I love donuts.
(Really, who doesn’t?)
My favorite are the chocolate ones from Dunkin’ with the chocolate frosting. Holy shit, I could eat like twenty. And there’s nothing better than washing them down with one of those Frozen Hot Chocolates. What? You don’t agree? Or how about the regular hot chocolate on a wintery day? Yum.
Whatever, you clearly haven’t lived.
Which explains why so many of you were appalled when I posted on Facebook that I gave my kids Dunkin’ Donuts for dinner the other night! Yup, I shared on social media that I “made dinner” which consisted of donuts and frozen hot chocolate and y’all went absolutely ape shit. It was as though I had injected them with heroine and force fed them Jell-O shots.
Lawd, ladies! It was ONE dinner of donuts!
And yes, I did ask your opinions. And sure, I thought it would stir up a little trouble.
But never in a thousand years…did I think a “donut dinner” would cause such a disastrous dialogue.
Here’s how this went down: I asked, on a scale from 1-10 (ten being the worst), how bad of a Mom I was for giving my TEENAGE boys donuts for dinner. Period. End of story.
Within minutes, my FB feed started lighting up! Some comments were cute, like, “You’re the best Mom, Jen! How fun to have breakfast for dinner!” And some were like, “Ummm, really? I guess I’d give you a 4. Donuts are not really a dinner thing. But every once in a while.” And then, I got these comments: “10! You cannot possibly think that is ok?” Ugh.
This is what I found to be the most interesting thing about all of this: Look, not all the comments surprised me but I was amazed that people were so judgey in general.
Who really cares what I do with my kids? And it’s not like a donut or two is going to send them into a diabetic coma. (And yes, I do get it. Childhood obesity is a real thing. In fact, it’s a horrific issue, one that shouldn’t be taken lightly.) But my kids are not eating donuts daily. And if I’m being honest, they are so thin and healthy, they could.
But ya know what I really got out of this Facebook post about donuts?
I began questioning this generation of Moms and our “fun factor”. Ya know what I mean? Like when the fuck did we get so dang serious? When did we stop doing funny, crazy-wild shit, just because? What happened to just looking at our kids and saying, “Guys, today we are having donuts for dinner!” and letting it just being ok.
When did we start being so un-fun?
I know in my house life is stressful and school is hard. My boys are anxious. I know they are getting older and I may not have the opportunities to do this shit for long. At 15 and 16 they will be leaving me soon and then our “donuts for dinner” will be a memory they can share with their college roommates…then their girlfriends…and then their wives.
Omg. One day, they will tell their kids, “Guys, your Grandma Jen was SO silly! Every once in a while, she used to let us eat DONUTS for dinner.” And ya know what? I think for making that memory alone I deserve a 1 out of 10 on the Kick Ass Mom Scale. One being the best, of course.
Now, who’s grabbing a dozen frosted strawberry with sprinkles for your kids tonight? Don’t forget the hot chocolate. 😉
Xo j
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