You met for dinner. He ate with his fork. Even spoke in full sentences. Then, it happened…
He paid the bill. Oh. My. God. You actually found a guy you want to date? Yes! He’s a good one…and it’s only been six months, three weeks, two days and five hours. (But who’s counting?) You like him and he’s attractive, smart, AND witty. He checks off all your non-negotiables just like your dating coach talked about (hint-hint).
But now what? There are rules, lady! Just like men make mistakes at this dating shit, so do we! So I’m here to help–I’ve done the research and found the top dating mistakes women make.
Here’s how to avoid losing that next great guy:
1. If it’s not a commitment, then it’s not a commitment!
Look Y’all, this one is about as simple as it gets. If you haven’t had “the talk,”, you are not in a committed relationship. Stop acting like you are or that man is going to run for the fucking hills. Don’t go through his phone (crazy bitch) or make plans with his sister. And please don’t question his whereabouts after three dates. (It’s none of your beeswax, Sis.) Slooow down and control your emotions or he is going to think you’re mega-unstable. Just enjoy the relationship for what it is. Use this time to get to know each other. You are NOT in a committed relationship until there are a clear label and a formal discussion. If the two of you are in a committed relationship, his friends and family, as well as your own, should be aware of it. (And of course, pictures should be posted on all social media to prove it.)
2. Living in La-La Land.
We all like to make up shit and assume,”Well, he didn’t text back. He’s probably on another date.” Umm, no…he’s probably just busy! We jump on the “assumption train” to nowhere and ride that shit until our brains explode with anxiety. And women do this all. day. long. We like to assume he’s on another date. Think he’s cheating on us. Believe he’s where he’s not supposed to be. Whoooo-girl. How about we just assume he’s doing what he said he’s doing and stop with the bullshit we are spinning in our heads? Let’s just trust him and take what he is saying at face value.
3. Going to the Chapel.
Not every relationship is going to end in marriage. (In fact, not every guy wants to get married.) Some relationships are to teach you what you DON’T want in a partner and others teach you about yourself. Not every man has to be “the one