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Shaken Families

I feel validated.

I feel like I can breathe.

I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I am not a horrible person and my life is going to be okay.

I am NEVER blending families and I am proud AF to say it!

And to be honest, until I had Rebecca Eckler, the author of the book Blissfully Blended Bullshit on my podcast, I don’t think I could ever admit it (as confidently as I am now) to the world.

Let me take you back a few…

I am “happily divorced” for the last four years and in a loving, healthy and pretty great two-year relationship. My two teenage boys are thriving and doing as good as two kids of divorce can be doing. (Read my book, Woulda. Coulda. Shoulda. for the deets.) I have an amicable relationship with my Wasbund. So much so, that he just bought me an iPad along with my boys for Mother’s Day and the card read, “For all the extra things you do for our guys. You never cease to amaze me when it comes to the things you do for the boys. Thank you for all the support you give them every day.” Ummm, I think we have a unique co-parenting relationship, and I’m thankful for every moment.

My boyfriend also has two boys. They have a great relationship, as well. But for him and his ex…ya, not so much. It’s not as “amicable” as mine. But, it’s ok. And it’s better than a lot I’ve seen. We have the same 50/50 schedules, week on/ week off which makes it really simple to date. But not so simple if we ever wanted to blend. Now, wait…I have met his boys; he has met my boys.

But blending families would be well…a big, fat cluster fuck.

We would have to mush our boys up in ONE big house all together on the same week. Or, if we switched schedules, we would have two kids on one week, and the other two on the other week…leaving us with kids fulltime, which is better, I think! It’s like a real-life family situation, right? I mean what couple with kids only have them half of the time? But then do we get a three-bedroom house (one for each kid and a master) and expect the kids to sleep in each other’s rooms on their on weeks? Or do we stick with our schedules and get one big house with 5 bedrooms and have them all at once? FOUR BOYS!