PMS is something that almost every woman on the planet dread. At worse, menstruation can directly affect marriage, and a lot of people will do anything, including meditation, to cope with its negative effects. In this episode, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS)™ Jennifer Hurvitz talks about the frustration of making men understand what it’s like to go through a menstrual cycle, and it’s not just about the blood. She covers the emotions and environment it creates for a relationship. Jennifer shares how she discovered a way to treat her PMDD (Premenstrual dysphoric disorder), and how it changed everything for her.
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Menstruation, Meditation And Marriage
I’m solo and I’m excited about that. I get to talk about anything I want and you are going to be shocked about this one. I’m going to be doing a discussion about something that could possibly end a marriage or relationship or cause problems. It’s been a rough week over here because of my period or PMS, otherwise known as PMDD, Premenstrual dysphoric disorder. This podcast is all about PMS and bleeding. I’m calling it menstruation, meditation and marriage. I am convinced that I cannot understand why men cannot understand that when we get our periods, we’re wenches. What is the problem? Why don’t you get it? I’ve been dating you for two years and for two years, every single month, four days before I bleed, I’m a wench. I get it because here’s the deal. When I was married to my wasband, we used to schedule trips, my wedding, my honeymoon, Disney world or whatever it was around my period.
PMDD is a serious problem. Premenstrual dysphoric disorder is a clinically medical condition and there’s nothing you can do about it. It is a real deal. It’s a real thing until probably five years into my marriage, I didn’t know that you could take medication for it. I’d always gone to a male gynecologist my whole life and I used to say, “I have PMS. I’m a total wench.” He used to say, “Exercise, watch what you’re eating, don’t do this or don’t eat chocolate.” I moved to Charlotte and this is a true story. I started seeing a female gynecologist and I’m like, “I have the worst PMS. I’m depressed. I get angry all the time. I’m irritable and I snap at everybody. My boobs are killing me.” I had no other symptoms. It wasn’t bad cramps. I had girl friends who had the worst cramps ever in high school. They had to get a doctor’s note for PE and stuff. I never had that. I didn’t have heavy bleeding. I was a complete nightmare and awful to people.
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I could have these automatic experiences watching me be nasty and I couldn’t help it. She’s like, “Why don’t you take anything?” I was like, “What do you mean? She’s like, “You can take medication for PMDD. Why didn’t anyone do anything for you?” I was like, “You’re kidding.” She’s like, “No. You can take Prozac seven days before your period and then go off of it.” I’m like, “Oh my God.” I went home and I told my husband at the time and he sent her a bottle of wine. He sent my gynecologist, at the time, a bottle of wine and said, “This is the best thing that ever happened because you know you can do something for yourself. You don’t have to walk around feeling like crap.” It helped us because it made me better, but I also gained weight, which sucked. I don’t get it because I don’t know why people don’t understand that PMS is real. I’m going to breathe because then comes in the next thing, meditation.
Once again, I’m getting my period and I’m a total wench, but I don’t worry him. I don’t say, “I’m getting my period in four days.” He pushes button. It’s like, “I said I’m getting my period. Isn’t that enough? Isn’t that a red flag? I put up the menses flag.” You would think that he would get it. Most of the time, he does because he does, but then there are times that he’ll say something like, “Is this the menses talking?” I’m like, “Did he just say that? Do I punch him? Do you want me to kill you?” I eat what I’m saying. Jim Healey is funny. If you were here, he would be dying right now because that’s what he says. Not sure, but this can be the menses. I’m pissed at that point that I want to kill him because of course, it’s the menses. He knows that and pushes the button.
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