We matched on Bumble.
We chatted for two days.
We exchanged numbers.
We texted for “real” on the phone.
We had an actual speaking conversation for fuck sake…it was like we knew each other for years! He said all the right things. I was über witty. We continued texting on and off for a week and even scheduled a date at a hot spot uptown.
Then, the night before we were supposed to meet..NOTHING. The douche goes black.
And when I say black, I don’t mean he decided to take his coffee sans the cream. (Or is it dark? Oh whatever.) I’m saying the fucker stopped calling and texting. I never heard from him again.
What the hell? What kind of human being pulls that shit? It’s not nice, or kind. It’s just flat-out rude. But getting “ghosted” happens all the time! C’mon, at least come up with something new! Although passé, it’s still bullshit. (And women do it too! Trust me, this behavior isn’t gender specific.)
But it has become completely acceptable in online dating after divorce. And here’s why: It’s simply the lack of human interaction and contact. Yup! Hear me out, ok? Taking the “face-to-face” away from the initial courting process has stripped us of all emotion. We have no reasons to feel any guilt for hurting another person’s feelings. “Who really cares if I cancel a date? I don’t really know her anyway.” Right? Wrong.
So, so wrong. Like…omg. YOU ARE WRONG.
You have formed a connection! That person receiving your texts is, in fact, a human with a heart. And even though they might not “know” you yet “for real”…they feel like they do. Let’s have some fucking Online Dating Etiquette shall we? Let’s take a deep breath and remember that there actually is a PERSON with feelings getting those blue bubbles!
I get it, I do. Texting makes it all too easy. We have superhuman chutzpah! You say things you would NEVER say in “real life”. Am I right? And it’s so easy to LIE via text, too. They can’t see your face, or your body language when you’re canceling that date to go out with the other women yo